Cherish Love

In a world where everything and everybody is disposable, true love is hard to find and hard to recognize; but it’s not an impossible task.

Stop looking for that perfect person because they don’t exist.  A good relationship consists of two people who are willing to put in the work.  A great relationship consists of two people willing to put in the work and figure out a way to forgive and love their partner no matter what. 

All relationships have problems.  Each person has their own personality and sometimes the differences between he two can cause problems in the relationship.  However, if you want the relationship to work, you both have to be willing to compromise and balance is the key to fixing the problems.

If you spend your day thinking, “This person snores so loud I will never sleep again!”  Or “Just pick up your freaking clothes already!”  Or “Even when they’re in the same room, I feel alone!” then your mind will start believing that this person is loud, messy, and they don’t pay attention to you. 

However, if you change the words you tell yourself, it changes the way you look at them.  Instead of worrying about your sleep, realize that they are snoring and that means they are still breathing.  If their clothes on the floor is the issue, let them there.  After a while they will either pick them up or wear them dirty.  Who knows, you may get them to do their own laundry – SCORE!  And the part about feeling alone?  Those are just feelings caused by thoughts in your own head.  If you want their attention, make sure they know you want their attention.  Sit on their lap, hold their hand, and make sure that you take responsibility for your own thoughts.

There is a reason this person is still with you.  They made a decision to love you and to stick around no matter how many mood swings you have or when you shaved your legs last.  True love is patience, understanding, and forgiveness. True love is cherishing that person and just loving them.